Hot and Heavy

Dear Mistress Maeve,

I should start by saying that I am a heavy woman, and I have had trouble in the dating scene because most guys will not approach a fat woman. Recently, I met a guy who has a “thing” for bigger women. At first I thought it was strange, but then I decided to give him a chance. When we are intimate, I can tell he really likes my large body, and I feel very confident and free with him. The problem is, he never takes me out on dates. We always stay in and watch a movie or make dinner. I am beginning to think he doesn’t want to be seen with me in public. I’ve never felt so sexy before, but I wonder if his attraction for me ends in the bedroom?

Sincerely,
Sarah

Dear Sarah,

Being a sexy, curvy woman myself, I can sympathize with you. It is not easy being the most ample woman in the club watching Barbie-girls scoop up all the eligible men. As for your new beau, he’s a fetishist. When we think of fetishes, what comes to mind is images of foot worship and men wearing women’s under-things. In reality, anything can be fetishized — including you.

This gentleman has a penchant for the plus-sized, and he is fulfilling his innermost fantasies by sleeping with you. It all comes down to what you want to get out of this relationship. If he makes you feel hot and sexy, perhaps you want to pursue a strictly sexual relationship with him — safely, of course. But if you’re looking for a long-term love relationship, I think you’re barking up the wrong tree.
Before you give up completely, though, try to talk to him about your concerns. Perhaps he is just oblivious to your needs. If he doesn’t respond to your request for a more social dating routine, I suggest you move on. Honey, if you’re good enough in the sheets, you should be good enough for the streets.

With chub love,
MM