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Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Ride 'Em, Cowgirl

Dear Mistess Maeve,

I recently started seeing a guy semi-seriously and things are going great. I thought we were on the same page about sex, but he recently dropped a bomb on me: his biggest fantasy is to have a woman penetrate him with a strap-on. I’m no shrinking violet when it comes to sex, but this is a little out of my league! Neither of us have a lot of experience with anal sex, and I feel like the pressure is on me to make his fantasy come true. I’d like to give it a whirl, but I have no clue where to begin. Help?


Dear Rachel,

Before you go strapping it on, let’s talk about this. Firstly, it’s great that you have the kind of relationship where you can share such intimate desires with one another – it’s a sign of good things to come. However, just because he fantasizes about you bumping him from behind does not mean you have to oblige! Anal play is like sushi – most people either love it or hate it. If anal play is not on your menu, you do not have to grant him this fantasy. On the other hand, if you are open to trying a new delicacy, my advice is to start small – literally. Your beau may think he wants a dildo in his derriere, but if he is a virgin in that area, I suggest picking up some powder-free latex gloves, some lube and experimenting manually. If all goes well, graduate to a butt plug or small dildo. Then, if you’re both still enjoying yourselves, reach for the strap-on and ride off into the sunset.

Bottoms up,

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