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Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Debauchery on a Budget

Hi Mistress,

My girlfriend and I would like to start meeting men, women and couples to broaden our sexual experiences. We see people on the street and both agree we’d like to have them join us in bed. Unfortunately, that’s not a request you can just ask any random stranger. We’ve considered looking online, but we have yet to find a website that lets people meet for free. Whatever happened to people of the same mindset helping each other out? I am a recent college graduate and my girlfriend is still in college. So we save every, and I mean every, penny. We simply do not have the money to spend on a dating site.

So instead of simply complaining, are there any ways for us to meet people? Will we have to start an “online hook-up” fund? Or are we destined to simply fantasize? I hope you can help!


Dear Eric,

Vermont has many amazing amenities — the mountains, the lakes, the nation’s only “democratic socialist” senator, etc. What we don’t have, unfortunately, is a vibrant and visible kink community. I often feel very lucky to live in the diverse, liberal bubble that is Burlington, but I also feel stifled by the lack of options for us kinksters.

22945075When you’re into alternative sexual activities and live in Vermont, the Internet is your friend. You’re right, I don’t know of any sites that will give you complete access for free, but most sites — including Seven Days Personals — are free to post an ad. People have to pay to respond, but if they do, it won’t cost you a dime. So what are you waiting for? Get cozy with your girlfriend, write an ad that describes your most torrid fantasies, post it, and see what happens. Just the act of writing such an ad will likely turn you both on and, with any luck, evolve into a steamy night for the two of you!
Living a kinky lifestyle is a hobby, and like most hobbies, it costs money. Whether you’re collecting stamps, knitting or trying to attract other pervy people to your bed, you have to be ready to “put out.” You need to start a “Spank Bank.” You and your girlfriend drop in loose change, and before you know it, you’ll have enough to join an online site for a month or take a trip to a bigger city where you can get your freak on.

I am astounded that so many people in Vermont forget how close we are to the living, breathing kink-friendly city Montréal! Swinging in members-only clubs is legal there, and the clubs are easy to find by searching the net. Just remember to bring your passport and plenty of protection.

Bonne Chance,

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