Straight Shooter

Dear Mistress Maeve,

Sex with my new boyfriend is really good, perhaps too good. The last time I had an orgasm with him, I squirted. I’ve heard that some women can ejaculate, but I didn’t think I was one of those women. It was really embarrassing — my boyfriend thought it was pee and kind of freaked out. Plus, we had to stop in the middle of everything and change the sheets — it totally ruined the mood.

I’m confused. What is my body ejaculating and how can I make it stop?

Thanks,
Stuck in the Wet Spot

Dear Wet Spot,

Why so glum? Do you have any idea how many women practice and practice and still can’t squirt? The liquid being released from your urethra upon orgasm is not pee — it’s a clear liquid that is generated in your Skene’s glands (often called the G-spot). The Skene’s glands are the female equivalent of the male prostate. When you’re aroused, your G-spot area becomes engorged and releases liquid into the urethra that may squirt out upon orgasm. Some studies say that the majority of women ejaculate from the urethra during sex, but in small, undetectable amounts.

I wish I could reference more research about female ejaculation, but unfortunately, science likes to ignore female sexual function — especially when it comes to bodily fluids. Not too long ago menstruation was thought to cause livestock to die and crops to fail. Nowadays, we’re bombarded by ads for products, from douche to deodorant, that are designed to disguise all our odiferous fluids. Heck, even sanitary pads now come with a heavily scented wipe attached. The message is loud and clear: women are not supposed to secrete unsightly or pungent fluids. Well, guess what? We do!

Don’t stifle your squirting skill — embrace it. Most female ejaculators can only squirt when uber-aroused, so your man should feel like a stud for making you shoot. You deserve to have orgasms and not be ashamed of your body’s natural tendencies. If your boyfriend doesn’t like it, buy him a poncho.

Singin’ in the rain,
MM