Kiss Miss?

Dear Mistress Maeve,

I recently dove headfirst back into the dating pool, and I have to admit that I’m a little out of practice. I’ve been out on a few dates so far. Most of them were bad, with the exception of one. She and I really hit it off. At the end of the date I wanted to kiss her, but I chickened out because I didn’t want to offend her by coming on too strong.

I know this question is probably lame in comparison to the other, juicier letters you receive, but is it OK to go in for the kiss on the first date?

Thanks,
Shy Guy

Dear S.G.,

No question about love or lust is too small to tackle. Besides, without courtship and kissing, we’d never get it on. Capiche?

I think kissing on the first date is fine, as long as a few key things are in place — undeniable chemistry, strong eye contact and blatant “kiss me” body language (if she’s touching your arm while she's talking to you and holding your gaze for moments at a time, she probably won’t cringe at a kiss).

To be safe, you should follow a few first-kiss rules. Firstly, compliment her. Tell her you had a great time with her and that you hope to see her again soon. Next, ask for the kiss. It’s extremely hot to hear, “I’d really like to kiss you right now.” She’ll either give you the go-ahead or explain why she prefers to wait. In which case, no harm done — you’ve given her the ultimate compliment.
And please, if she gives you permission to kiss her, go easy. Take your time. Pull her in close, touch her face and do not jam your tongue down her throat. Your first kiss should be sweet, and preferably closed mouthed.

Smooches,
MM