There's Hope For Me

I knew it. I was doing it right all along. . .

According to The Rough Guide to the Brain (yep, the same company that publishes travel guides is now taking you on a tour of the mind), having sex on the first date can actually increase your chances of having a long-term relationship. Author Dr. Barry Gibb writes, “During sex and particularly orgasm, the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin are released, which are associated with the build-up of commitment, bonding and trust.” Who knew?

I have turned many a one-night stand into a relationship, but looking back, the relationships never lasted very long — two months or so. When you sleep with someone right off the bat, you create a false sense of intimacy that can come back and bite you in the ass. In each of my one-night-stand relationships, we reached a point where we had to double back and start over again. It can be weird to be in a relationship with someone you haven't actually had a first date with — you're sharing heap loads of time and "intimacy" with someone who may not know your favorite color or where you were born. Don't get me wrong — I love my one-night stands with all the clumsy, sweaty, unbridled new-person fun, but the beauty of a one-night stand is that the person leaves in the morning.

For more hot debate on the subject, check out this article in The Sun where two sassy Brits argue the pros and cons of getting it on early.

What do you think? Can a relationship survive first-date sex? Leave me a comment with your thoughts — and remember, you can comment anonymously so no one will know you're reading smut at work.

xoxo,
MM