Think Outside the Box

I've heard through the grapevine that some people (read: men) are in disagreement with my assertion that vibrators do not cause desensitization in women. One reader relayed that one of his buddies was certain that I was incorrect because he had experienced quite the opposite — saying that after spending time with her vibrator, a past lover could no longer get off with his penis alone.

Uh. Well. DUH.

I don't know many women who CAN get off with a penis alone. Sure, lots of women enjoy a vibrating cock inside them, but I'm willing to bet that the majority of women are using their vibrators on their clits. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that you can't get that same desired effect from a penis doing the old in-and-out motion. You can, however, put in a little extra effort by using your fingers on her clit mid-coitus. Or, you could invite her to use her own fingers on her clit while you're inside her. OR, heaven forbid, you could even invite her to bring the vibrator along for the ride.

Vibrators do NOT desensitize women. They give them bigger and better orgasms, thereby challenging you to bring your a-game when it's time to get it on. Saying that vibrators desensitize women is a total copout. C'mon. Think outside the "box."

MM