Flicks for Chicks

Dear Mistress,

My partner of 15-plus years recently told me she'd like to try watching some porn. She says she is kind of curious. While I'm not opposed to watching porn, I'm pretty sure she doesn't know what can go on in these movies. She can be a bit conservative in the bedroom; for instance, anything anal is out of the question with her.

I've been tasked with picking a movie, and I'm hoping you can suggest something that isn't too "male fantasy"-oriented; also, no lesbian action or anal. Do they even make movies like that?

Sincerely,
I Don't Have a Witty Sign-off

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Dear IDHAWS,

You're in luck. More and more adult films are being made by women with a female audience in mind. I highly recommend Tristan Taormino's Chemistry series. Taormino throws a handful of successful porn stars together in a house — à la MTV's “The Real World” — and captures the sex on film. Sure, the actors are probably contracted to get busy, but they also participate in candid dialogue about the industry and one another. The result is porn that's more natural: The viewer actually witnesses the erotic tension mounting between the characters before they consummate on-screen, so the sex is more emotional and less robotic.

You can find Taormino's work, along with a number of other recommended titles for women, at Babeland.com. The Chemistry films I've seen do feature some girl-on-girl and anal, but that's what the fast-forward button is for. Plus, you never know, perhaps your lady will venture outside the DVD box and surprise you . . .?

That said, given your partner's list of requirements, I worry you're setting yourself up for failure by picking the movie all by yourself. Encourage her to help you select the film — go online together, read descriptions, and jointly choose a title. That way, if the porn proves unsatisfactory, you won't be in the dog house.

Plenty of witty sign-offs,
MM

P.S. For those of you who like girl-on-girl, anal and more, check out some of my other favorite porn directed by women:

The Bi Apple, directed by Audacia Ray
Crash Pad, from Pink and White Productions
Sugar High Glitter City, directed by Jackie Strano and Shar Rednour