Firm Resolve

Dear Readers,

I don't know about you, but I find most New Year's resolutions to be boring and totally uninventive. So, whether you'll be ringing in the new year single or as part of a couple, I challenge you to make only resolutions that will bring you pleasure of the carnal variety. To get you thinking in the right direction, I'll make a few suggestions — some naughty, some nice:

1. Read erotic fiction about something you think you'd never try.

Just because you fantasize about having group sex, being spanked, or getting busy while dressed up like a team mascot doesn't mean you want it in real life. To broaden your fantasy horizons, pick up some "taboo" erotic fiction. I suggest Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica, Crossdressing: Erotic Stories and The Mile High Sex Club: Plane Sex Stories, all edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel.

2. Rediscover making out.

Kissing is among the most erotic activities, if you allow it to be. The next time you slide lips with someone, take a minute — or an hour — to really enjoy it.

3. Spend time naked.

Shedding our layers and getting to know ourselves better, both physically and mentally, makes us better people and partners. So crank up the heat, close the blinds, and lose the clothes. If you have a significant other, consider resolving to share "naked dates."

4. Try girl-on-guy strap-on sex.

This may exclude those of you who don't participate in girl-on-guy action, but I'm sure you'll support your bi and hetero brothers and sisters in this resolution. Think about it: No matter how equal and respectful men and women are to each other, the woman is always getting "screwed." Change things up in 2009 — get a strap-on, a good dildo and some lube and mix up the gender roles. Trust me, it'll be good for both of you. 

5. Practice safer sex.

Hopefully you're already protecting yourself, but it never hurts to renew this resolution. Make 2009 happy and healthy.

Happy New Year,
MM