Why So Wet?

Dear Mistress Maeve,

When I was a younger woman, I noticed that when I was on top of my male partner, I was quite wet. It didn't happen often, and I didn't give it much thought. Ten years later it happened again, and then again and again — and now, before my very eyes, I have become a full-blown squirter. And we're not talking a trickle, either, but gushing, porn-star-style squirting. Luckily both my partner and I are excited by it and have successfully incorporated it into our love making (crib pads are a godsend).

But my question is this: What's the deal? It's hard to search the Internet for info because most of the returns are porn, and the little information I do find says people don't have any idea what female ejaculation is or what causes it.

Soaked in the South End

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Dear Soaked,

It's no surprise you can't find much info about female ejaculation. Science, in general, likes to ignore female sexual function — especially when it comes to ejaculating "unladylike" fluids.

The ejaculate is squirting from your urethra, but it isn't urine — it’s a clear liquid generated in your Skene’s glands (or G-spot). When you're aroused, your G-spot becomes engorged with fluid, which it releases into your urethra. Upon orgasm, this liquid can erupt — sometimes a little, sometimes a lot, depending on your level of arousal. Some studies say that the majority of women ejaculate from the urethra during sex, but in small, undetectable quantities.

It's logical that your squirting abilities have developed over time, as you've gained more sexual experience and found more compatible partners. The more turned on and comfortable you are, the farther you can squirt. I'm happy to hear you and your partner are both embracing your special talent — grab some crib pads and get busy.

Wet and wild,
MM