Take Your Licks

Dear Mistress Maeve,

I’m a guy who could use a little help in the oral department — giving, that is. I haven't gone down on too many women, so my confidence level is rather low. (I've never brought a woman to orgasm with my tongue.) I want to please my partner, and I would appreciate any tips you could give me. I think a lot of guys would be interested in hearing what you have to say on the topic.

Thanks,
Tongue Tied

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Dear Tongue Tied,

Vaginas are like fingerprints — no two are alike. Hence, I cannot give you a start-to-finish list of instructions guaranteed to bring your partner to orgasm. I can, however, impart a few tips that most women will appreciate:

1. Ease in.
Generally speaking, consistent clitoral stimulation will bring her to orgasm, but don't go for the gusto right away. Take your time getting acquainted with her thighs and work your way in. Use a flattened tongue to stimulate the entire vulva before going in for more deliberate circular motions on the clitoris.

2. Get into it.
Show your partner you're enjoying yourself by using not only your tongue to please her, but also your lips, nose and face. Just don't get too crazy; women tend to orgasm once a good rhythm is established — switching up the pace mid-race will not get her over the finish line.

3. Give her a hand.
If you can walk and chew gum at the same time, so to speak, I highly recommend using your fingers along with the tongue action— a sure-fire way to put most women over the edge.

Above all else, communicate with your partner. Encourage her to tell you what she likes, then do your best to deliver. Also, look for her non-verbal cues. If she's raising her hips to meet your tongue, moaning, and clutching at the back of your head, you're doing something right.

Taking your licks,
MM