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Thursday, November 18, 2010

Slip Slidin' Away

Dear Mistress Maeve,

I recently started seeing a guy, and I was relieved and happy to learn that he takes safe sex as seriously as I do. Even though I'm on the pill, we have used a condom each time we have sex and will continue to do so until we decide whether we're taking this thing to the next level. However, a distressing pattern has emerged. Whenever I'm on top of him (my favorite position), the condom slips off! When I get off of him, I find it inside me or lying on the bed. WTF?!

We are using standard-sized condoms, and he's not small, so I don't think it's a size issue. Condoms stay on in every other position; why is this happening when I'm on top?

Slipped When Dipped


Dear Slipped,

First and foremost, kudos to you and your man for taking safe sex seriously. Unless you're a monogamous couple with two clean bills of health, you should be keeping it covered.

Just like penises, all condom brands are not created equal. The condom may be the appropriate size, but make sure he's using the brand that gives him the snuggest fit. Also, be sure you're putting on the condom correctly. This may seem elementary, but if you're fumbling around in the dark, trying to fashion the condom properly in the heat of the moment, it could go on inside out or not be rolled down the shaft of the penis far enough.

If the fit and form are in order, and you're still experiencing slippage, the most likely culprit is prolonged friction after he's ejaculated. As soon as he orgasms, have him hold the base of the condom while you disengage. Sure, it's nice to have him remain inside you after the deed is done, but as his penis softens and shrinks, the condom can easily slip off, creating an unsafe scenario.

One final note: If you're finding the condom inside you, double check to make certain it's intact. If you find that it's torn, consult your doctor. Trust me, you do not want remnants of latex kicking around in your va-jay-jay.

Sheathed in Safety,

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